It’s a tough anniversary today: 2 years since we said goodbye to Claire.
I try to steer my thoughts back to the positive, after all it is my favorite time of year: crisp and colorful autumn. Every time I hear a child sigh and say, ‘I miss Claire…’ it stops me in my tracks and reminds me I am not alone in my loss.
Mourning someone we care about is natural but our eventual goal should be to celebrate life instead of mourning death. Every life is different but everyone leaves behind something worth celebrating. There is something worth celebrating in every life.
Acknowledging death is important, but death – and the struggle of dealing with a long term illness or a sudden unexpected death – shouldn’t be the thing we remember about our loved ones. We should remember their lives, their smiles, their hugs and their accomplishments. Those are the things that made you love them in the first place.
I deliberately choose not to talk about Claire’s sickness and death. Instead, I celebrate what she was – pure love. And happiness. No horse is perfect, but Claire was very close and how blessed we ALL were to have 5 whole years of that.
Choose to celebrate the lives of the ones you’ve lost instead of mourning their deaths. If they made you happy during their lives, focusing on the happy memories is the best way to honour them when they’re gone
“Grief is love’s souvenir. It’s our proof that we once loved. Grief is the receipt we wave in the air that says to the world: Look! Love was once mine. I loved well. Here is my proof that I paid the price.”
― Glennon Doyle